This is not just a post about a blouse that actually flatters curves. I thought it would be, but since a.) blouses have been my nemesis for a long time and b.) it’s important to be reminded that nobody has the right to make you feel ashamed of your body, I felt it was time to share this experience I had when I was in my early twenties…
Once upon a time, Mr. Smith and I were part of a non-denominational church where we served for several years. As the years passed, however, the church became a place of use and abuse. During this time, I was called into an elder’s office. I was actually excited because I thought that maybe this elder would take me under her wing since I had been feeling so lost. Instead, she informed me that the way I dressed in church was causing the men to stumble.
The news felt like a 2×4 to the face. Whaaaat?? How does a woman who wears hair down around her shoulders, skirts down to her ankles and little to no makeup cause men to stumble?
“It’s your shirts,” the elder replied, “You wear knit tees and people can see the full outline of your breasts in them.”
But knit tees are the only shirts I can find that fit right, I answered. (And, ummmm, not only that but it’s kinda hard to conceal the outline of large breasts.)
“There are plenty of nice blouses out there; you just need to take the time to find the ones that fit,” was her response.
Had the Mrs. Smith of today received this news, I’d have given that elder the finger and told her that those men should learn to control themselves. But I was young, insecure and eager to please so I agreed to go shopping, even though I didn’t have any extra money for new clothes. Mr. Smith came with me and I spent the next couple hours desperately searching and trying on blouse after blouse that either hung about me like a sack-cloth or was tight across the chest and shoulders and gaped between the buttons. With each ill-fitting shirt, I felt more and more bitter and ashamed of my body. Suddenly I could no longer hold back the tears and was grateful that my husband was there to lead me out of the store to the safety of our car where I sobbed on his shoulder. Though the experience was painful, it was the first step in finding my voice and my freedom from toxic people. Thankfully, that church is a distant blur in our past, and I no longer feel responsible for how a person chooses to conduct themselves. It took a long time, but I now embrace my body.
Despite all this, finding a flattering blouse that isn’t just a boring knit tee is still a challenge. This is one of the many reasons why I am grateful for Glamour Farms‘ clothing and mission. They embrace curvy figures and provide a great selection of lovely pieces INCLUDING BLOUSES!!
I’m sporting their super-comfy, super-flattering Pixie Ruffle Top in plum. Hurray! I finally have a fall blouse to wear! (Though, this rich plum color and soft rayon fabric works for any season.)
Even though I am wearing the Large, I don’t feel like I’m sporting a flour sack. This shirt has shape but also flows in the breeze.
This Pixie Ruffle Top actually made me want to pull on my skinny jeans; a rare occurrence if you know me!
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Here’s to embracing our bodies and finding clothing that does the same!